1st Open House

When we talked to our original realtor (the one who helped us buy this house), she said that she would price low and then have an open house and 50-100 people would come and you would get 10 offers and they would bid up the house.  So the low price gets people in the door, but then they bid up the price to make it $50,000+ more.  We had a couple come look at the house and they said that they had lost hope buying a house because they were selling $100,000 over asking price and it felt like you never knew the actual price of the house.  We didn't want to do that.  It felt kind of scummy to us.

But those conversations made us prepare for swarms of people to come to our open house.  We bought a giant sign and put out a ton of waters and I baked so.many.cookies.  Do you know how stressful it was when no one came for 45 minutes?  I would love to say that I didn't worry, but I quickly went to "Oh my goodness, no one is going to buy our house!"

11 people came to our open house.  Not 100.  And while there was positive comments, there were zero offers.  Not 10 competing.

So far, nothing "they" said would happen has actually happened.

While Ben was at the house, I took the boys to basketball and Maya for a walk.  It was so hot and humid that day, I wasn't sure she was going to make it.

An awkward showing

Mint house is officially on the market!  It's only been a few days and it already feels like forever.  That's probably because for over a month, people have been telling us that it's going to sell SO fast and maybe even before it hits the market.  They were all wrong.

Fun Fact: we were walking through Central Park when Ben made the call to list the house.


That night, we set up the scheduling app on our phones.  It's the app that all the agents use and is linked to our listing.  The next morning, we got a request for a showing.  Honestly, we were prepared to be inundated with requests from how people talked.  We were not.  ONE.  Ben had to work, but I didn't want to miss an opportunity, so I accepted the request and was so thankful we were done with school because the rest of my day was spent getting the house ready.

The app said it was booked with so-and-so agent, so when the appointment time rolled around and a single woman walked up to the door, I assumed she was either the buyer or the agent.  There's a reason there's a saying about assuming.  I was under the impression that all I had to do was get out of the agent/clients way and the agent would do the job.  I had the boys and the dog all ready to go.  They were waiting by the car and we were going to get snow cones while we waited.  I hate snow cones, but I was so stinkin' hot from cleaning that I needed something cold and ASAP.

Anyway, back to my assumption.  
I thought we were waiting for another person, so I chit-chatted with said woman out on the porch for several minutes.  It was HOT.  I waiting for her to say something like, "My client should be here in a minute."  She asked about the noise from the main road and how I felt about living so close to it.  It was hard to make it sound not so bad, when inside I hate it every single day.

I finally got up the nerve to ask if she was the agent.  She chuckled and said no, it was just her.  Apparently her agent couldn't come so she just came on her own and her side of the app said:
"Owner will show house"

Well, that was awkward. 
 I quickly got my kids and dog out of the hot car and told them to just hang out in the backyard.  I took her in the house and one look at the living room and she said, "Oh, this is too small."


She finished looking around the house, but just as a curtesy.  She also has 3 kids, about my kids age.  What was hard about the showing for me, is that she immediately saw the things that are hard for me about the house, but I had to try and sugar coat them.

"How was it moving in?"  
Terrible.  I don't really want to tell you how many tears were shed trying to figure out this space for 5 people who homeschool.  But let me show you how I made it work!

"I just don't see how we could all hang out in the same living room."
You can't.  My bed is my couch most of our down time because the living room is full of boys watching a show or playing a game.  But we got a couch that reclines so it's a little more cozy.

"There's no space for the kids to play."
Yep.  Right again.  Good thing my boys love Legos and that requires sitting on the floor of the attic with slanted ceilings.


I know that's just how it goes selling a house.  I think it was hard for me to hear what I would have said if I saw the house before we bought it.  I've had to make it work and I'm proud of accomplishing that...but it still stings a little.

 

When no news isn't good news

We ended up only have that one showing last week.  I'm very confused where all the other people went...I'm very confused what God is doing right now, but I know He's doing something.  The couple that looked at our house, emailed with a few questions the following day and then we haven't heard another word from them.  People said our house would be sold right now, and it's not.  They also say that as soon as we officially list it, it will be gone.  I'm preparing myself that they are wrong.

We had a busy enough week without showings, so I actually saw it as a blessing.

Sea Cliff is a very unique place to live, and while it's not my paradise, I can see how it is for other people.  The Porch Pickers played a concert on the beach.  It was an absolutely beautiful evening and kids were running around playing and dancing to the music.  Parents were chatting and eating by the little cafe.  You could see the Greek Festival going on across the water and I hear that Jimmy Fallon was there ;



So thankful for this friend.  She drove all the way out to Sea Cliff to hang out with me during the concert.


We're in the last few days of school, which mean they are torture.  You know, when you can see the end and you just want to be done, but you can't be done and you feel like you're dragging yourself across the finish line?  We're there.  We decided a snow cone would lift our spirits.  It actually did; I just have to think about paying for the experience and not a cup of flavored water. 


To be honest, the last week has been challenging for me, but in an unexpected way.  I have peace about the no news.  I'm actually not that worried or stressed about selling the house.  But I have struggled with the attitudes from my boys.  Maybe it's just the end of year yuckiness or maybe they feel the stress of things starting to change or maybe they are just sinners and need to be reminded of some basic things...like being polite.  I felt a shift this week and suddenly, just me walking into the room equaled them literally collapsing on the floor.  Not just an eye roll, but a literal collapse; a deep sigh and looking away and complete silence.  Looks of disgust and a plea in their eyes of "please don't tell me one more thing".  Except that I am their teacher and their mother and my job is to keep them alive and educate them and shepherd them.  So, unfortunately that means that I have to instruct them and unfortunately for me that means a constant stream of backlash.  I feel like I deal out abundant grace in this house, but the thing they don't tell you about teens is how exhausting it is to be extra cheery to a house full of grouchy people.  I'm weary of it.  AND guess what?  When you finally call them out on it and correct it, it's like poking a bear and it just makes it all worse!  
It will pass.  We will work through it.  But it just kinda sucks right now to be not liked by people in your house for just being.

First Showing


Five people have said they want to see the house this week and two have needed to reschedule. But we finally had our first showing this evening.  We had a full day of school and then picked up the house.  I have found it very interesting that in these weeks of being more on top of keeping the house clean, the boys have been wanting to do more projects.  Today, Eli organized his Lego mini figures and Colin built a Lego airplane.  It's been months since they've played Legos and I love it and it's worth the mess, but I just find it ironic timing.

I made chili for dinner because it was easy, but it was NOT a chili day.  We suffered through and then we went to get ice cream while Ben showed the house.


Ralph's Italian Ice is a very popular New York thing.  However, to us Shear's, it makes zero sense and the menu might as well be written in Chinese.  We tried it last summer and almost cried trying to order...I don't even remember what we actually came away with.  It was our only option tonight, so we were brave and gave it another whirl.  Oh, New York.  Why do you have to be so difficult?  I ordered a sundae.  I figured it was a safe order.  I was wrong.  The girl kept going back and forth between ice cream and fudge.  My simple order turned into a half gallon of ice cream and fudge; a complete monstrosity of a creation!
Colin ordered a "twister" which apparently is ice cream and shaved ice layered in a cup that also equaled a giant mess.  Eli won by ordering a root beer float.


We had to take Maya with us to get her out of the way, but she was more of a mess than Colin's dessert.


Then we went down to the beach park.  It was an absolutely beautiful evening, but Maya kind of ruined the ambiance by her constant whining and pulling on the leash to go run into the ocean.


I ended up talking with Ben on the phone while the boys played.  He said the couple loved the house and everything went really well.  


It's so interesting hearing others stories and gaining perspective.  This couple has a young daughter; he works in the city and she works from home.  They are currently living in a tiny apartment in Queens roughly the size of our main level (which is very small).  Her sister moved to Sea Cliff a year ago and she has dreamed of moving out here and being close to family.  To them, our house seems huge.  They weren't phased by the layout or configuration of rooms, it all seemed like enough.  It took us MONTHS of painful work to figure out how to make this house function.  To be fair, we have 2 more kids and we homeschool, but it does put in perspective that you really can make any space work.  And what I complain about is someone else's blessing.

 

Canceled Plans


Living in the land of flexibility.

We got the house all ready last night, intending that we would just need to pick up a few things this morning and maybe vacuum again, but Ben received a text saying the showing had to be postponed.  At least we're more ready and now just have to stay on top of it.

In theory, we have 2 showings tomorrow and 3 more wanting to schedule something.

Minus the inconvenience, it actually was great for me and we jumped into school.
This is what breaks between subjects looks like:


He is the Beat Saber master :)
Eli sadly got very, very sunburned a week ago while paddleboarding and hasn't worn a shirt since.  Maybe I should be phased by it more, but he's lived a good part of his life shirtless.  

Colin doing his math outside:


These sights just make my heart smile.  I love our days together and I love watching them grow.  I also don't want to miss these moments because I'm so busy working on moving stuff.


Maybe this season is actually really good for me.  I know I need to work on my systems, but I seem to have enough margins in my life that I can get away without tuning them up.  This is going to make me!  I confess that I often think "I'll do that later" and don't completely finish a job.  I do actually finish it later, but I just make later harder for myself.  I know I need to sit in that and figure out why I think that...
actually, as I'm typing this, all of our school books are scattered about the kitchen table.  We're done with school, but I didn't finish the job and clean up.  All that to say, I've spent energy setting up schedules and plans to keep the house running smoothly, but I fail to follow through with the plan for no good reason.  I know that cleaning one room a day a week is a whole lot more manageable than cleaning the entire house  on Saturday...but do I stick to it?  no.  I'm looking forward to this season of tuning up how I think about chores.

My favorite easy, healthy dinner; turmeric honey chicken.  Steam some rice (often I will have cauliflower rice) and throw some green beans in the bottom of an Instant Pot.  Then mix almond flour, turmeric, garlic, salt and pepper in a bowl.  Dredge chicken through that mixture and place on top of beans.  Then drizzle honey all over the chicken.  Set to manual for 20 minutes and viola! 


I just need 30 more meals like this and my life would be complete.




Adventure Anyone?

 Want to go on a little adventure with me?

Get ready to move with me!

This might be one of the craziest weeks of my life, so I thought what better time to blog!

Just 24 hours ago, Ben put up a post on the Sea Cliff Facebook page saying that we will be listing our house to sell in the next couple of weeks.  We have been told by several Sea Cliff people that this is how they prefer to sell houses and simply word of mouth will get the house sold.  We thought we would just give them a heads up to get the word going around.  Pretty much immediately Ben started getting messages about the house.  To our surprise, he spent the evening chatting with so many people that he started to have a hard remember who was who. Ben received almost 40 messages about the house.  Some were realtors trying to get our business, some were "I'm sharing this with my cousin who is trying to get in the area" and some were "I've lived in that house!" 

 It was such a blessing to receive such positive feedback about the house and exciting that people were immediately interested.  Also, PRAISE THE LORD I started working on some decluttering and deep cleaning a few weeks ago, because we have a showing in the morning!  And another one the following day.  And 2 more people who want to schedule a time to come look at it.  But we've had a full week and just had a garage sale Saturday, which meant the house was neglected.  So, after church, we all pitched in to clean it up and get things ready.

I have a couple of projects that I intended to do before we showed the house and now I'm debating whether it's worth it or not.

#1. Bleach the kids bathroom floor.

I did this once before company came and it looked really good, but also took me several hours of scrubbing.

#2. Touch up the paint on the kitchen cabinets


I guess instead of doing those big projects, I cleaned the stainless steal and baked some chocolate chip bars to cover up the broccoli smell from dinner.  I'm wondering if the pretty fridge will mask the fact that you can't open the door all the way.


I'm really looking forward to being able to reach my whole arm in the freezer one day.  It's the simple things in life.


So, a few house showings may not seem like that big of deal, but I haven't mentioned that Alison is traveling home late tomorrow night, we are in the last 2 weeks of school and finishing up testing and Ben is traveling and there's music practice and a concert at the beach and oh, yea, Colin's birthday!

The house is ready; just need to fold some laundry.  Groceries are ordered to be delivered tomorrow.  Now, I just need to do some praying over this week, pick up some diet coke and try to not lose my mind keeping this house clean.






The school year has begun